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What is a Rule of Life?
A Rule of Life is a framework of practices designed to protect our habits and direct our lives. In other words, it’s a way of living today that reflects both our deepest desires and God’s work of transformation in us. The word “rule” might sound rigid or restrictive, but its origins tell a different story. The Latin word for “rule” refers to a trellis, the kind you’d find in a vineyard. A vine needs a trellis to grow upward, bear fruit, and stay healthy—protected from predators and disease. In the same way, a rule of life is a structure that helps us organize our lives around “abiding in the vine” (John 15:1–8), just as Jesus taught. It’s not about rules for the sake of rules but about creating a foundation for flourishing. It’s often said that inner peace comes when our schedule reflects our values. A rule of life is a tool to help us live with intention. It’s not a rigid checklist, but a grace-filled structure that fosters freedom, growth, and joy. It lifts us toward the life Jesus longs for us to live. |
How do I craft a Rule of Life?
There’s no “one-size-fits-all” approach to creating a Rule of Life, and there’s no official template that’s been handed down through history. It’s meant to be personal and adaptable. That said, there are some tried-and-true practices that can benefit all of us, regardless of personality or stage of life—things like morning prayer, observing Sabbath, gathering with your church community on Sundays, and prioritizing Scripture before engaging a screen. The beauty of a Rule of Life is that it’s yours to shape. Keep it simple or make it detailed. Create it on your own or involve a few friends. You can map it out in a spreadsheet or sketch it on a piece of paper. To help you get started, we’ve put together a template, but it’s just a guide. Feel free to make it your own and let your creativity lead the way! |
What should I consider as I craft my Rule of Life?
Here are a few key principles to keep in mind:
Here are a few key principles to keep in mind:
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1. Keep the purpose in focus.
A Rule of Life is simply a tool—a means to an end. The goal is to be with Jesus, become like Him, and do what He did. Or as Jesus said, to abide in the vine and “bear much fruit” (John 15:5). Let everything you include serve that ultimate purpose. |
2. Start small.
It’s tempting to overreach and aim for perfection right away—like trying to live as a monk from day one. That’s a surefire way to get overwhelmed and discouraged. Instead, start where you are, not where you feel you should be. Set goals that are realistic and enjoyable, not idealistic or crushing. For example, if “daily prayer” for you means reading one psalm and offering one short prayer, that’s a great start. Begin with what’s doable and let your practices grow at a steady, relaxed pace. |
3. Be specific.
Your Rule of Life should include practices that are clear, tangible, and actionable—not vague aspirations. For example, “Sabbath on Sundays” is concrete, whereas “be more relaxed” is too abstract to guide your life effectively. |
4. Consider your personality.
Tailor your practices to suit how God has wired you. If you’re introverted, carve out time for quiet and solitude. If you’re extroverted, prioritize connection and community. But don’t stop there—stretch yourself toward a healthy balance that nurtures all aspects of your soul. |
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5. Factor in your season of life and stage of discipleship.
If you’re raising young kids, start small and go easy on yourself. Let the rhythms of your family life shape your Rule. Even the interruptions of little ones can become moments to grow in love and patience. If you’re new to following Jesus, don’t copy someone who’s been practicing spiritual disciplines for decades. Simply focus on your next step and grow at your own pace. |
6. Balance upstream and downstream practices.
Upstream practices are the ones that challenge you and stretch your soul—they may not come naturally but foster significant growth. Downstream practices, on the other hand, feel life-giving, natural, and joyful. A healthy Rule of Life includes a few upstream practices to push you forward and plenty of downstream practices to keep you rooted in joy. |
7. Balance structure and spontaneity.
A Rule of Life should bring freedom, not legalism. It’s meant to be a framework, not a rigid checklist. Allow room for spontaneity and be open to the Spirit’s interruptions. Your Rule should serve your relationship with Jesus, not the other way around. |
8. Make it a living document.
A Rule of Life isn’t static; it grows and shifts as you do. Regularly review and revise it to ensure it’s still fostering life with God and others. If your Rule ever feels like it’s pulling you away from healthy relationships—with God or people—it’s time to reevaluate and make adjustments. The goal is always to become a person of love, reflecting the heart of Jesus. |
Teaching: Establishing a Rule of Life